I Hate Small Talk

Somewhere over the many centuries of communicating, "small talk" has become the norm... I partially blame it on technology and the even bigger norm it is to communicate by texting. If you're unfamiliar with what small talk is, Google is here to help: a polite conversation about unimportant or uncontroversial matters, especially as engaged in on social occasions.

Don't get me wrong, there is a time and a place for small talk. An important job meeting is one where controversial conversations are best done without. Maybe I'm crazy, maybe this is just me, but I would rather have no conversation than have a conversation filled with small talk. To me, small talk is lazy, insignificant, gives vibes that the conversationalists don't care, and is a waste of time. I cannot build a silhouette of someone based on unimportant and uncontroversial topics. I cannot design someone a framework with questions asking about the weather.

I want to know about your first kiss and whether or not it was a kiss you would redo. I want to know about the riffs you and your parents get into and why those arise. I want to know your biggest fears and why you fear them. I want to know what you love and hate most about yourself and which of those things have changed throughout the years. I want to know your values, and your morals, and your beliefs; I want you to explain to me why those are your values, and your morals, and your beliefs. I want us to discuss whether or not mine match up with yours, and if not, why we believe differently.

I have no interest in asking you "What's up?" every fifteen minutes, or responding that, "It's great." for the eleventh time. I am not interested in BS'd, strained conversations. If there is nothing to talk about, I prefer not to talk. People would rather have a short, disinterested talk than no talk at all. In a world that constantly has to be doing something, it also has to constantly be saying something; Even if what they're saying is meaningless, pointless, and uncaring.

I crave conversations that pull emotions you didn't even know you had out of you. I crave conversations that cause us to expand our everyday, original thinking. I crave conversations that are uncomfortable and difficult. I crave conversations that destroys the solid ground beneath us and forces us to balance on an uneven, rocky foundation.

Talk to me like you mean it, like you've never talked to anyone else. Talk to me with emotion and rawness and honesty... Or don't talk to me at all.

xo Kaylee

I hate small talks.